Thursday, January 2, 2014

*Why Most Marriages Don't Last*

Photo Courtesy of: 
http://www.yourdictionary.com/engagement

First off, I'd like to start off by saying that I'm a firm believer that age has nothing to do with marriage. It doesn't matter how old you are when you get married! Your maturity level has everything to do with your relationship! Most marriages end in divorce because of lack of communication. If you've been with someone for a month and are already engaged, don't go through with the marriage! Every relationship initiates with infatuation and grows into love. You can't be in love with anyone in one month. It's likely impossible. The value of a sacred union has greatly changed since the 1950's. Celebrities are known for having "two minute" marriages. Everything the world is exposed to is controlled by the media, which influences our society. If you're currently engaged, don't have Britney Spears as your idol in a working marriage. Chances are, you will be divorced within a year. When making the decision of being engaged, please consider your options. Marriage is sacred and it is meant to unite two individuals for life. Don't always consider that there is a way out! You marry someone because you are prepared to spend your entire life with that person. Don't do it for the materialistic things, such as the ring, the dress, the fairy tale. Marriages require work. They aren't a joke. If you're prepared to work together, then do it! If not, enjoy the relationship while it lasts and move on. My grandparents have been married for over 50 years and have been faithful to one another for the whole time. People make mistakes, but if you want to cheat or see other people, don't get married! Also, you shouldn't agree on bringing new life into the world it you are unprepared. Your divorce will affect your children tremendously. I know many people will say their lives and outcomes are unpredictable, but in fact, you can predict how it will work out. Enjoy your relationship for a few years before marriage. Have a long engagement (At least 6 months). Make sure you both want the same things in life and are compatible. Many people find moving in together before marriage is detrimental to the relationship. In my opinion and against all controversial arguments, move in together. It's the only way you can truly see if your relationship can work. Trust me, you will be faced with almost everything within a marriage while living together. Take my advice or leave it. If you don't seriously contemplate your situation, you'll remember my post in a few years and regret your decision. As I've always said, it's your life and you only get one to live. So, choose your engagements seriously. People aren't made of glass and don't involve innocent children. Whatever you do, if you have children, put their happiness before your own. It's their lives you are affecting. Hope you have understood my message and take my advice seriously. I wish you all the best.

No comments:

Post a Comment