Thursday, May 26, 2016

"For the Love of an Italian Gypsy"

For my family and friends all over the world. "La Mia Anima, Le Mie Parole (My Soul, My Words)" I have had many struggles writing this book. I pick up the pen and freeze, chills take over my body. I break out in cold sweats. Sometimes, it is for a few days, others, a few weeks that have evolved into months, which quickly transformed into years. I continue to go through processes of self talk in hopes that my motivation will surpass expectations. I know that I can do this and I don't doubt myself. It may be a decade before this story is published, but it can never be too late to express my journey. It has been a fight with destiny and my grammar may not be perfect, but I vow to myself and God that it will be worth it. I have learned that "love" can be messy and hurtful. Maybe I have learned in all of the wrong ways, but is there ever a "right" one? Every one experiences life differently. It will never be easy. Fairytales only exist if you want them to. My motivation is my survival. I survived "falling in love" with an Italian gypsy. I also learned to let go. It was not free will, but forcefulness. My life was more valuable than my love for him. His words stabbed me in the epitome of my soul when he bid me adieu. Years later, I discovered that he was trying to save me. He rescued me from his life. He gave me the greatest gift of all, he let me go. He may say he never loved me, but in his own way, I believe he did. If he did not value my life, he would have held on with both hands. Instead, he set me free. I have replayed the outcome of our lives in my head over a million times. There are many unanswered questions. I would have given up my world for him. Actually, I did give it all up, but it went unnoticed. My father once said that if he let me go, he would be doing me the biggest favor in the world. That one favor could sit on your chest for a century. It has and always will. That is why I chose to pour my heart out. The feeling I have will linger in my soul until the day of my last breath.

### It's going through memory boxes in the middle of moving that has left a lump too stiff to swallow in the back of my throat. I find a picture of you and me and the tears weld to my cheeks. I am wearing a green jogging suit, the same one you met me in. The material is some cheap, green terry cloth from target, but it's comfortable. We were so young and so full of opportunities. The summer of 2005 rests in the back of my mind, in the epitome of my soul. It was a summer with plenty of history for some and unforgettable for many. It's astonishing how much one can age in 7 years. My beautiful Emilio was wrinkle free. The skin on his face was just getting rough. His eyes were happy and liberated. What happened to that sweet, innocent, young man that I once admired? He was given responsibilities that should have never been bestowed upon him. I will always love you, Emilio! I hold you deep inside where your eyes burn. Oddly enough, we have the same almond, cut eyes. You once said that it drove you crazy because you couldn't read me. Humurously enough, every one else could. My eyebrows always arch up with my expressions. Our eyes both are so easy to read. Each time that we cross paths and speak, we find ourselves in our own little worlds. The truth, so easy to see. The pain lingering in my face. My teeth clench together and my cheeks stick in between. They say when you truly love someone, it's impossible to detect inconsistencies. You see the person the way you want to. I'm not sure if you just didn't want to see me. I often wish that I was invisible, but in many ways, I was to you. I won you over so many times with my words. Somehow, I managed to captivate your inner being. I'd hope it wasn't pity. I'd hope it was a true sense of honesty. Each time we spoke of Flavia, your eyes would widen. The creases on the sides would disappear. It was as if you instantly rejuvenated your self. She brought a shining light in the center of your eye, which was the center of your universe. My sweet Emilio, you are in my thoughts and prayers. You were once my only reasoning in the center of this corrupt world. My one and only soulmate does exist. In another life, my love, my one and only, we will dance on the moon, hand in hand. You, in a white button down shirt and loose, matching silky pants. You will my wrist and pull me close. My skinny, long, fingers will fit into your pudgy, small, squared hand. The callouses will not scratch me. They're proof of a working man. We will dance until the stars disappear into the dark sky and the moon swallows the sun. We will find ourselves in a sweet, slow, dance and I will bend my knees to your height. You will grab my dark, long, curly hair and rest my face on your chest. For now Emilio, I say goodbye. Whenever you think of me, that's where we will be; on top of the moon, floating in the air. For now, my tears will corrupt my cheeks. For now, the dark circles form. For now, I begin to mourn. I mourn our sweet youth. I mourn the complete loss of you. I am only as strong as I am because I was able to let your hand slip away. I was able to let you live the life that God had intended. I wish you nothing, but the sincerest smiles and all of the joys you believe you don't deserve. You do deserve it all! Believe in your self, my sweet olive skinned, Angel. I gave you the purest laughter your heart will ever recognize. My only wish is that when you close your eyes and ponder about me, you reminisce with the smiling times. When you discover that I have written a book about us, about you, I hope that you will let go of any resentment and read it. I once said that the only way that I can truly express my self is through my words. I know that they have forever entranced you. Please do not be offended as some of this is dramatized and most of it is true. Cammat misto (I truly care about you)! Aminat (I love you)! O'ciau romirro (Oh, my poor baby)! You have taught me well! I can pretend to forget. I can destroy all of the pages, but my heart can never do the same. Our past will never disappear. My name is Alessandra Toreggiani and I fell in love with an Italian gypsy. These pages will fill you all in on the truth. I can't help, but thank the Lord above, our God, and our savior, Jesus Christ for the magic you introduced into my soul, a lesson learned!

###It must have been the way he grasped my body and turned my skin a light shade of blue that left me gasping for air. I had other boyfriends before him and while I was seeing him, but none of them impacted my life as deeply as he did. I give every individual that I meet all of the passion that exists in my heart, which is more than you can ask from a teenage girl. I may have been immature and easy going, but that was the only way I knew how to give. Every man in my life before him left me fearless and emotionally drained. I was terrified that he would do the same. In the depth of my anima, I knew he would, but I never evaluated how extensive the damage could be. The love I had for him trapped me in a world of oblivion. Many have described the feeling as a mere infatuation, but does that dwell for 7 years? True love is said to persist for an eternity. People warned me of what he was, but that didn't define him in my eyes. Prior to our first engagement, I heard the word that classified his "kind" in The Hunchback of Notredame Esmeralda, the main character was one of "them." I yearned for her wavy, dark, black, smooth, straight long hair, blue eyes, and caring personality. As I think of the reference that distinguishes between "them" and all of the other beings, I want to hurl. I find it extremely tedious to roll the word off of my tongue. I assumed that if this categorization existed, "they" would be like Esmeralda, but I was severely mistaken in more ways than one.

### The way he affected me was life threatening. My body tremored when he approached. To save him, I would die if necessary. To this day, I don't think he really understood my inner affection or admiration of him. He might as well have been blind. I was a naive teenager who fell in love with a gypsy. The word burns in my chest like a bushel of fire incinerating my heart to dust. With time, my life progressed and I have avoided all regressions that plunge me into his arms. I stand firm, shackled with a brick of cement to the ground. I will not allow this being to annihilate my dignity any longer. Don't let me confuse any one. There were good moments and bad as in every relationship. Unfortunately, the awful times became more memorable. It was those few blissful memories that are the most cherished. My expectation for this story is that people will find compassion in their hearts for a culture that is so critically judged, frowned upon, and automatically ridiculed in every country. It is essential to remember that the word, "gypsy" doesn't define a person. I know that I contradict my self on occasion, but it's because of the wounds that I was left with. The characters in this novel and all gypsies on the planet are human, worthy of a chance for acceptance. Many of my loved ones will be offended or saddened as an outcome of this publication, but they must remember that it wasn't my intention, I have done this to help them all move on from the dark hole we found ourselves in. We all deserve to taste the light. I love you all! Please, never, forget that!

### The sound of his name sent me straight to the nearest trash can, a feeling of unsettling nausea occupied the pit of my intestines. It never failed. Every time I heard it, a cold sensation traveled through my veins, causing the hair on my arms and legs to fling straight up. It honestly felt like I was dead. No matter how diligently I tried to avoid it by pacing back and forth, by humming blank tunes that only my brain could register, I could never escape the cruel downfall. I was constricted to a world consumed by him. He was what I breathed in and out, what I ate and what I pictured when I opened and closed my eyes. He was my poison. There was no escape.

### My body begins to shake as the laser penetrates the sensitive skin on my left hand; distasteful memories of my haunting past leave my palate dry and sour. They flash through my mind like a slideshow. I feel my stomach growl in disgust. A mark from my quirky adolescence is beginning to disappear. It resembles a rooky jailhouse tattoo. I can't help, but laugh at the recollection of the day it was branded on my hand. I was 15, carefree, a true "dare devil," fearless of incoming pain, and on an unforgettable vacation. The idea of rebellion spiked my adrenaline as Enrica, my Italian best friend dipped the steralized hospital syringe in black Indian ink. She pricked at my hand until a little trickle of warm, red blood made its way to the crease. She went deeper as she pricked. It was never continuous. She just went by her own notions. She continued until she thought it would stick. Boy, did it ever stick. It resembled a variety of birthmarks conjoined together. If anyone really wanted, they could play connect the dots. Over the years, the color faded to a dark shade of blue. It's location faced me. A perfect, "E" in between my thumb and index finger, where a pen would lean if I was a lefty. It actually connects to a brown beauty mark already present on my hand and the grooves a palm reader may glance at when she's doing an evaluation. It was never a perfect tattoo. It was a sloppy mess of uneven love. I wasn't the sole owner of a tattoo that day. Enrica had gotten one as well. Hers was darker and more crooked than mine. A "T" for a best friend she no longer speaks to.

### When I arrived at my first laser consultation, the technician glanced at the small mark and gave me a stupid smirk. "What does it even stand for?" Her words stabbed at me like a sharp knife swirling around my heart. How dare she question something I want erased from my hand and memory? I want to strangle her, but I manage to contain my self. I give the woman a wicked and intense glare that made her fragile, thin, pale lips turn to a frown. Her ocean blue eyes curiously search for a reaction. I sigh. "Emilio." I manage to whisper as if the name was a sin. Tears instantly fill my eyes, but I stretch them wide open to avoid the unwanted trickes of wet, salty water. It's a difficult task, which burns the sockets. The technician can surely sense the tension. Her bright eyes turn to a cooler shade of blue as I examine her with a grimace. She starts to stutter and quickly changes the subject. I am so pissed that my ears turn red and my jaw hurts from forcefully locking it to prevent unwanted words from spilling out. I hate remembering him. It would have been easier if he was never nice to me. If he always ignored me, I never would have become so attached. I have heard that tattoo removal is more painful that the actual tattoo. I admit it slightly burns, but nothing can compare to the sharp sensation of the needle tracing and retracing the 7 other tattoos that rest on different areas of my body. I am numb and resilient to it all. I am surprised I didn't actually die from the tattoos. My skin is so delicate that I break out in a rash with the smallest bit of irritation. I have shocked every tattoo artist that has ever concocted a piece of art that fits my body. I can sit in a chair for an hour and a half without a break, which is torture for normal people, but not me. I enjoy the brutality of it all. I must be abnormal.

### My stomach jiggles and sends thick vibrations to the edges of my fingertips as I remember the first time I laid eyes on Emilio. He was incredibly charming and a year older than me. His smile revealed two perfect dimples in the edges of both his cheeks. We had many things in common, which included our attitude and the shape of our eyes; the color of licorice, our pupils barely visible. Oh, his eyes, my eyes! I find my self in a bitter sweet trance, frowning at the reflection.

### I get through the fourth treatment without any adverse reaction from the blonde, bimbo bitch that ensured me it would only take two treatments to remove the "E" because it was the size of a dime. Needless to say, I have spent $400.00 enduring four treatments and it's slowly fading. I know that I am insane and I have wanted to cover the tattoo on numerous occasions, but no artist will assume that responsibility. I can't bare the thought of peering at that initial for the rest of my life. I already know he will be on my mind at every relevant occasion of my future. I will remember him when I get engaged, walk down the aisle, and when I give birth to my first child. Yes, Emilio has that affect on me. Memories are all I have and it has been 7 years too long. It's difficult to let go of someone that has made a lasting impression on my life. Sometimes, we have no choice. It's not goodbye, but I will cross your path somewhere. If not, I will cherish the imprints that have been left behind. I'm sharing them with you, world. You can laugh, cry, scream, and die inside when I have.

### It was the summer of 2005 when my family decided to take their yearly trip to Italy. We have an apartment in Falconara Marittima, the province of Ancona, along the Adriatic Sea in the Marche region of Italy. Many have called it the city a "hidden treasure." My father spent the first 23 years of his life there. The apartment was built in the 1950's by my grandfather, Pasquale for Jus wife, Annamaria and There four children. It lied on Via Salita and is directly across from the beach. When my grandparents passed away, my father, the oldest inherited it in 2004. It was immediately remodeled because of earthquakes and monumental damage sustained through the years. It was an extremely difficult process to reconstruct because of the hefty reparations necessary and slow construction rate. After a long agonizing year of shipping condiments, such as furniture and kitchen supplies from a storage unit in South Florida, where we primarily reside, that apartment was finally complete.

### It was the third year in a row that I would spend my summer in Falconara. I was eager to take a break from the "sunshine state," or as I would like to think of it, "home of the palm trees." I live in Fort Lauderdale, Florida in a similar setup compared to Falconara, directly across from the beach. The difference between the two is that Fort Lauderdale beach is vaster and further spread out. Falconara's tightens up and is often polluted by the main gas line in the city, Api. If Api catches fire, the whole city is bound to explode and will become non-existent. The most amazing aspect of Fort Lauderdale, is the seventh floor of my building where our condo rests. I enjoy meditating on my balcony, closing my eyes and feeling the ocean breeze spread and penetrate my inner soul.

### I had already made a friend in Falconara with my sister as we walked along the coast in the summer of 2003. I was 13 and Gemma was 10. Erica was a year younger than me. She had long thick legs, a robust behind, light brown, wavy hair, and brown eyes that matched the color of her hair. It flowed down her back in the creases with the sway of the ocean wind. Coincidentally, her family owned an apartment directly beneath ours in the brick building my grandfather built. She lived there year round and was an only child, happy to have girls her age under the same roof. Throughout the years, as you can imagine, she has become more than a friend. She is our "sister."

### My sister, Gemma, is an innocent 12 year-old girl in the summer of 05.' She enjoys the sounds of pop music from Vanessa Carlton and Kelly Clarkson. She has the voice of an angel. When she lets out a tune, it silences a room with sweet melodies. Her hair is straight, full, and shoulder lengthed brown with kisses of blonde from the sun.

### We quarrel for the aisle seat on the plane. I feel the need to stretch my legs because they're long. Many have compared them to skinny, chicken legs; thicker on top and slim from the knees to the ankles. I lose the fight and give into my sisters demands. I am the most easy going person that I know and I don't want to cause a scene. Gemma sticks her tongue out at me as she takes her seat. I frown and take a deep breath. Continental Airlines provides us with inflight movies and a chicken or steak dinner that tastes like cardboard. We are flying direct; from New Jersey (EWR) to Roma (Fiumicino). All of our family lives in Jersey and we are visiting. I have mixed feelings about this flight. Unwelcomed tears trickle down my face as I think of leaving my boyfriend behind. He is two years older than me, 17, and my best friend. I have been there through the roughest patches of his life. I know I will only be away for 2 1/2 months, but I feel that tingling rush of nausea spread across my stomach and thrust it's way up to my throat. Somehow, I feel as if my blonde haired, light honey eyed, boyfriend won't be there to greet me when I return. My tears flow uncontrollably down my cheeks. Steven comes from a disrupt home. He has an alcoholic mothers and an irresponsible father. He is third from last of 8 children. His mother had the audacity to get evicted from her home and leave her 17-year-old son and 16-year-old daughter on the streets. I think I love him. He makes me smile and a sweet sensation rises in my stomach twisting to my heart. I have never had sex with him or anyone before. It came close, but I could never go through with it. I am secretly a virgin, but like the rest of the people my age, I have lied and said I wasn't. Of course, Steven knows, but we haven't done anything, but swap spit. He respects me and appreciates everything I have done for him; totally opposite of the boys I usually fall for. I like tall, dark, and handsome; the usual stereotype. Steven is broadly shaped and wears his hair, spiky, but short. A smile always runs across my face when I think about his passion to strive, despite all of the obstacles in his way.

My mother gives me an awkward glare and I know she's going to ask if I am okay. I glance in the opposite direction and ignore her. I turn the volume up on my iPod. "Have You Ever," by Brandy is blasting through the rectangular device; a Christmas present from my parents. It's silver and easy to carry around. I dose off in my seat and awaken to drool sliding down the side of my cheek and a bright red imprint of the chair on the left side of my face. I feel a sudden burning sensation, which tingles my bladder. "Oh shit!" I have to pee and I'm trapped against the window. My mother was in the middle seat sprawled out and my sister was on the aisle. She didn't get up once and I would have loved to have been on that end, considering my weak bladder. My father has upgraded to first class because he's terrified of flying and we make him paranoid. I roll my eyes at the thought. I gently tap my mother on the shoulder. She sighs and moves her legs to the side, so I can get through. It's easy to step over my sister and not startle her. Her lips are full and her mouth is slightly open, so that she can breathe. Her nose is flat to her face and small, but wide. Her eyelashes are oval shaped. The only thing we have in common is the dark color of our eyes. Her legs are shorter than mine, she has a round, firm rear end and broad shoulders. She has an athletic build without trying, much like my fathers.

### I struggle to slide the bathroom door open. It's dark on the plane and it's the only sign that's lit up. I am extremely claustrophobic and I feel like I am in a closet. I can barely pull down my lime-green terry cloth caprees. I thank God that I am wearing sneakers. It reeks of urine and Clorox bleach. I bend my knees and stand, careful to avoid the seat, which would be devastating. I extend my right leg to the button that flushes the toilet and tap it with my red and white adidas sneakers. I am surely a fashion disaster, but who cares? The toilet swallows my pee and toilet paper like a famished grizzly bear. The sound is similar to a blow drier in action. It makes my ears pop. I decide that I must wash my hands. The sink is filthy; water, soap, and toothpaste occupy the silver metal spaces. I find myself grabbing the edges of the sink as the plane begins to shake with turbulence. Of course, it happens while I am in the bathroom. I stare at myself in the mirror. My hair is the shortest it's been in awhile; barely touching my shoulders and highlighted; all golden blonde. My eyes are red, flustered all around the edges and my long eyelashes are crusty from dried tears. My curls twist perfectly around my cheeks. My nose protrudes from my face; the only confirmation of my Italian heritage. My cheek bones rest high and two lines crease perfectly from beneath the edges of my nose to the top of my upper lip. Lines are the same as my mothers. I hate my nose. I always have. "It gives me personality," I joke to myself. I am impatient because my feet want to touch solid ground.

### It's 10:30 am CET when we board the second flight. We have to take a shuttle bus to Alitalia's small cargo plane. There are two seats in each aisle. They check our second carry-on automatically to the bottom of the plane because there is no room for it to fit above our seats. Our flight to Rome was extra vacant compared to this one. I remind myself it's only for an hour and take a deep breath. The air is hot and dry. My body is sticky and I smell foul from the last 8 hour flight. I am determined to resist sleep, so that I can explore Falconara with Gemma and Erica. After all, it's been a year from the last time we were all together.

My father gathers all 6 of the oversized luggages that my mother insisted we needed for the trip. Ancona's airport is a clutter. There's only a few entrance doors and one baggage claim machine. Apparently, we were the only arriving flight. Falconara is surrounded by green mountain tops, an extremely old castle rests on top of one of the hills, visible from the flat airport. All of the windows are broken in and no one has vacated it for centuries. I tap my father on his shoulder and ask it's name. Monte Domini, he says in a thick Italian accent. Although he's lived in America for over 30 years, it has never left him and never will.

### Customs consists of two men standing at the middle door and the only entrance into Falconara. They are in blue uniforms and armed with two large rifles. Erica, her cousin, Dario, his parents, and a few of my fathers friends eagerly wave at us through the thick, green, translucent glass. The officers ask my father how long we will be in Falconara and why. He lies and says a few weeks. "We are only visiting."He says in perfect Italian, which is also a lie. My father never reveals too much. They will make us pay them if we tell the truth. One officer takes our passports, glances at them one by one, and let's us all through. It's a relief! Everyone runs to embrace us all and they pop open a bottle of "Spumante," an Italian champagne. In Italy, the drinking age is 18, but no one ever checks. We make a toast to our safe travel, take group photographs, and reminisce from our past.

### When we arrive at our apartment, it looks the same. The black glass tinted door stands there on a tiny, marble, brown step, waiting to be opened. The key to the house is extremely old fashioned with two loops at the end and long teeth that enter the key hole. As we swing the door open, the marble, peach tinted stairs sparkled in the touch of sunlight. It's as if they've been cleaned in our preparation of our arrival. There are three apartments in the building, one in the middle half of the building on the second floor, across from Erica's belongs to Indians from Bangladesh. I can smell the garlic and curry mix as I climb up the stairs to the top floor. It makes me want to vomit because it reminds me of someone marinating in body odor. It stuns me that people don't notice they smell of what they eat. I quickly turn to my parents halfway up the stairs to leave the door (il portone) open. I notice a Winnie the Pooh sign that reads, "Welcome home," which was designed by Erica hanging on the white walls, crooked from many difficult torrential years.

### Erica is eager to show Gemma and me off to her friends. We barely have time to leave the luggages in the house. I feel nasty from the last 24 hours, but we have no other choice, but to give in to Erica's wishes. Gemma is wearing a jogging suit identical to mine in hot pink. We instantly grab sunglasses and our purses and bounce out the door. Gemma's shoes match, like Barbie, appropriate for a 12-year-old. Erica hasn't changed much from the year before. Her hair is blonder and layered; shoulder-length.

Saturday, July 11, 2015

*Wedding Planning Advice*

Getting married? Think it's too early to plan ahead? Think again. Whether your wedding is in 2016 or 2018, it's never too early to organize yourself. Start by buying a binder or downloading, "the knot" app. If you decide to buy a binder, seperate each section with tabs. They should be labeled venues, floral arrangements, cake possibilities, photography, videography, etc. Make sure you have a budget and if you don't, that's amazing. Without a budget, you should be stress free and can plan the wedding of your dreams without a struggle. If you're not that fortunate as most of America isn't, it's vital to have a realistic outlook on what you plan to spend. It's never too early to set up payment plans with venues. That way, you aren't stressing out the week before your wedding worrying if you have enough to pay each place. Venue search as early as possible. Make as many appointments with as many venues as you can to find the place of your dreams. If you're comfortable with the venue, set a date as soon as possible. Remember, most venues fill up quickly. Reserving a date, holds your place. My strongest suggestion is finding a venue that doesn't treat you like a business transaction. It doesn't matter how beautiful the place may be, if you're pressured into booking your date, chances are, the place isn't right for you. If you're getting married in South Florida, I highly recommend the Royal Fiesta Event Center in Deerfield Beach. It isn't the most beautiful venue in Florida, but they make you feel like a part of their family. They don't rush you into anything and are the most accomodating venue I have ever seen. If you plan on getting married in church, make sure to research the proper procedure necessary to do so. If the wedding is on the beach, you need permits to have the ceremony. There are many diverse companies that provide the necessary documents. The one that I used in South Florida, is Weddings By the Sea. If you're having a big wedding, I suggest you hire a wedding planner. Either way, Pinterest should become your best friend. When choosing invitations, please ensure that the ink used is high quality. If not, it will run. Once you have reserved your date, you can send "save the dates" if you choose. Stay focused and keep organized the best you can. Happy planning and good luck!

Thursday, July 9, 2015

*Check Twice for Your Child!!!*

As a parent, my biggest fear is leaving my child behind. I don't understand how people could leave their children in a car. How could they walk away and forget their children? A child depends on their parents for everything. When someone leaves their babies in a car in smoldering heat, that is not a mistake. Your child is a priority! How do you continue to live your life knowing that you did that to your baby? I would never be able to breathe again. Yet, careless parenting happens every day. People "forget" their children in  cars. It takes 15 minutes for a baby to suffocate in a car. I urge every parent to look twice before leaving their cars. Check your car completely before you walk away. Being trapped in a car without being able to talk or move for yourself must be the worst feeling in the world. Don't be that parent! Don't "forget" your child! Please don't make that tragic mistake. Their are millions of people who can't conceive. They would die for a child. If you can't handle parenthood, don't bring innocent lives into the world only to be taken away. Give them better lives. Spare them the pain! Children deserve the world. Their precious lives are irreplaceable. So, please check your backseats before leaving your car. I don't care what kind of parent you think you are! Don't make a child pay for your carelessness. You are the center of their world. You are their voice!

Saturday, July 4, 2015

*Who Do You Think You Are- Really?*


Isn't it fascinating to evaluate your heritage. Obviously, we are told a rough estimate of our nationalities by our parents, but is that where it ends? You see, I became interested in digging deeper into my routes after watching the show, "Who Do You Think You Are?" I found it captivating that with a simple swab of DNA, celebrities were able to uncover their ancestral roots. The show also traced last names to original towns and were able to go as far back to the 1800's or more. Personally, I knew I was of Italian descent. I am first and second generation Italian. My mothers parents are italian immigrants and so is my father. I wanted to save the $200.00 necessary for the swab test. Over the years, I forgot it existed. It wasn't until I had a discussion with one of the girls at work that I heard she had done the swab test. The price had drastically decreased. It was only $100.00. I immediately typed in the website she told me to go to: ancestry.dna.com. I was 7 months pregnant and my thirst for heritage grew stronger. I thought it would be an amazing gift to share with my future child. The DNA kit was shipped and received in approximately two weeks. I had to wait thirty minutes without drinking or eating and put my saliva sample in a tube. I mailed out the kit and received my results within a few weeks. My Italian heritage was confirmed. I was indeed 70% Greek/Italian, which amazed me. The 100% didn't exist. I was also 9% Middle Eastern and 4% Eastern European. When I logged onto ancestry DNA to view my matches, I discovered so much about my origins and I was absolutely astonished. I could see a link between all of my results. I was 12% West Asian, which I would like to attribute to the Etruscan tribe that invaded Tuscany, where my surname is said to originate from. As I digged deeper, I knew it wasn't a hoax. I recommend everyone to do this test. It's 100% legitimate and if you don't know who you are, you will become emotional uncovering the past. It's the best thing I've ever done in my life.

Thursday, July 2, 2015

*Confederate Flag: History Gone too Far

The Confederate Flag has stirred up controversy from the beginning of it's existence. The original purpose of the flag was for families who fought in the war to remember the victory. It was supposed to be used for the family of loved ones to remember them. Instead, America has twisted the meaning of the flag and turned it into a symbol of white supremacy. It has been turned into the main flag for the Ku Klux Klan (KKK). In recent weeks, a 21 year old boy decided to go into a predominately black church and murder the people in cold blood. His symbol of pride: the confederate flag.  caused an uproar across the nation forcing stores and the country to ban the use of the flag. This has upset people who's family members fought in a battle that waved the confederate flag. Unfortunately, the ignorance of people like the KKK and the 21 year old boy has destroyed the definition of the confederate flag. It has caused tv networks to pull the classic show, The Dukes of Hazard. Has society gone to far? That's a question I leave to my readers. It's insane how people can turn a flag into a symbol of hate. The purpose of my writing is to educate the ignorant and racist people of America. Because of their stupidity, a country has been suffering for years. We are all human and racism exists within black and white people combined. We choose whether to live on hate or love. I hope that everyone chooses love, but in a world filled with destruction and violence, it's impossible. It will continue. All we can do is spread the love.

Tuesday, June 30, 2015

*South Florida Party Experts*

Are you in a bind and need a party planner? Are you in the south Florida area? If you need assistance, please contact me for further details. All items are handmade and done with lots of time and love. The main organizer has over 20 years of experience planning a variety of parties. These include baby showers, bridal showers, weddings, baptisms, first birthdays, and etc. It can all be done. If you're interested, simply comment on this blog and I will connect you in the right direction. 

Monday, June 29, 2015

*A Review on "Orange is the New Black*

What is this new social phenomenon Orange is the New Black? It's a popular Netflix original about females in prison. It gives women a sense of empowerment behind bars. It highlights sexual preferences in jail and the harsh reality of prison treatment. I am not saying that every prison has this way of life, but it does happen. We have seen guards abuse their prisoners and have inappropriate relationships with them. The reality is that no matter the authority, we are all human. People are mistreated in jail on a daily basis, but they do not have a voice. Orange is the New Black highlights the improper treatment of inmates in a comedy series. We relate to the prisoners' struggles behind bars and in their households. I am sure that women who have been to prison may not appreciate the show because it hits close  to home. I'm also sure that others are content with the education behind the scenes. People are mistreated behind bars every day. These people do not have a voice. They are violated on a constant basis and because of the crimes they've committed, their opinions don't matter. They are treated as animals and have lost all of their rights. The women in Orange is the New Black unite and fight against the abuse. They use the power that exists within their souls to make their lives livable. They show society that it doesn't matter where we are in the world, we are all human. The show enhances feminism and feminine power. Not only does it persuade women behind bars, but all females whom have ever been abused by society. I recommend all women to watch the show and form their own opinions. It's an incredible depiction of feminine power.